Why, Kimmie, I wish you were right! Being famous or being in demand! Unfortunately, dear, not many people read my blogs. Or, if they do, they don't indicate!
Like you, it was the same with me in relationships -- never found that one kindred spirit for the long haul! There was always a reason why it didn't work. The only thing I gained from all that is insight -- or hindsight! So, if it helps someone else, I am glad I can be of help.
But, personally, I am quite tired of reasons. Don't want explanations anymore. When you give reasons or excuses to justify or end a relationship, then, maybe, that relationship isn't happening. I like happening relationships. Relationships which unfold naturally from Point A to B and to the next level and the next and so on ...... !
It is like going on a long journey -- the long haul -- with the right travel companion. You don't know what to expect, but you do know whatever it is, you will embrace it because the company you are with will make it worth it!
That's where I am at, these days -- enjoying travelling and happening relationships!
By the way, are there no comments for Kenny's view of current politics? Looking forward to your comments!
Monday, September 29, 2008
Thursday, September 25, 2008
Work It Out!
I understand what you are going through, Brian, but this is still something you need to sort out with Agnes privately. She may not want to be public about this and you need to be sensitive to her. And, thank God, you have friends to help out during this period.
Having said that, let me say this: Talk with her but be honest. Be honest first with yourself. If you can't be honest with yourself, you can't be honest with others. If you are honest, you will communicate it to her and she will know you are being honest.
Honesty gives the other person the choice whether to stay with the relationship or leave it. And that is being magnanimous -- you don't manipulate the relationship to your advantage. It gives the partner the option to decide to accept you where you are at or to leave because he/she can't accept where you or she/he is at.
Whatever, the outcome, you have to come to terms with it. It may not be what you expected but it will be easier to bear because both partners have been honest.
I hope both of you grow to be better people through this experience and that things work out well for each.
And, Brian, if you want her real bad you will find a way to reach her!
Having said that, let me say this: Talk with her but be honest. Be honest first with yourself. If you can't be honest with yourself, you can't be honest with others. If you are honest, you will communicate it to her and she will know you are being honest.
Honesty gives the other person the choice whether to stay with the relationship or leave it. And that is being magnanimous -- you don't manipulate the relationship to your advantage. It gives the partner the option to decide to accept you where you are at or to leave because he/she can't accept where you or she/he is at.
Whatever, the outcome, you have to come to terms with it. It may not be what you expected but it will be easier to bear because both partners have been honest.
I hope both of you grow to be better people through this experience and that things work out well for each.
And, Brian, if you want her real bad you will find a way to reach her!
Friday, September 19, 2008
Fish, Kenny and Politics
Nice to read your comment, Fish! Yours, too, Kenny. Since you like politics, why don't you -- Kenny -- write your views on the current situation in your comment and let's see what the others say?
Do write in a way that won't get you into trouble. I don't want to have you carted away by men in plainsclothes in the middle of the day or night and not know where you disappeared too!
Make sure the rest of you comment, you, Fish, esp!
Do write in a way that won't get you into trouble. I don't want to have you carted away by men in plainsclothes in the middle of the day or night and not know where you disappeared too!
Make sure the rest of you comment, you, Fish, esp!
Thursday, September 18, 2008
You All Surprise Me!
Hi, Brian. Truly appreciate your comment. Yes, I agree. There is nothing in the 21st Century that is more broken than relationships -- whether it is a marriage, friendship or a familial relationship. And, it is most evident in marriages and relationships between men and women. Third persons have no problems cutting in. And, often, people in a relationship are open to getting what they don't get in that relationship from others. The result, as you say, is a breakdown.
Exclusivity is outdated! The notion that you should be committed and faithful to one person (the person you love and your partner of choice) and exclude all others has taken such a beating that people no longer value these characteristics in a relationship. And, that is really sad, because it is commitment and faithfulness that are the foundations of stability in a relationship.
Your comment truly surprises me. This trimester (May 2008) students keep springing surprises on me! You reveal a maturity that is refreshing and extremely welcoming. It shows that you are all learning and growing. And, you know what? It is learning and growing that keep us active and alive.
Exclusivity is outdated! The notion that you should be committed and faithful to one person (the person you love and your partner of choice) and exclude all others has taken such a beating that people no longer value these characteristics in a relationship. And, that is really sad, because it is commitment and faithfulness that are the foundations of stability in a relationship.
Your comment truly surprises me. This trimester (May 2008) students keep springing surprises on me! You reveal a maturity that is refreshing and extremely welcoming. It shows that you are all learning and growing. And, you know what? It is learning and growing that keep us active and alive.
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
What do you mean, folks?
Dear all,
I was so happy to see four comments on my KK blog! But, what were you all talking about? And why are you all hiding behind pseudonyms? Can you reveal yourselves to me?
I was so happy to see four comments on my KK blog! But, what were you all talking about? And why are you all hiding behind pseudonyms? Can you reveal yourselves to me?
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